Don't get Angry (>~<) , Smile (^_^) It's Sunnah!!!

Don't get Angry (>~<) , Smile (^_^) It's Sunnah!!!

You have to restrain your anger, because Allah Subhana Wa Taala says :

“…who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allah loves Al-Muhsinoon (the good‑doers).” [Aal ‘Imraan 3:134]

This is because when a person does not restrain his anger, he insults, curses, swears and hits. Anger may be a door to all kinds of evil. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) often advised people not to get angry. Al-Bukhaari narrated in al-Saheeh (6116) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that a man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “Advise me.” He said: “Do not get angry.” The man repeated his request several times, and he said, “Do not get angry.”

The Prophet Alayhi salatu wa salam  regarded the one who controls himself when he is angry as being the strongest of men. Al-Bukhaari narrated in al-Saheeh (6114) that the Messenger of Allah Alayhi salatu wa salam said: “The strong man is not the one who can wrestle (fight); the strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger.”

Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) made some important points in Fath al-Baari (10/520) in his commentary on the hadeeth “Do not get angry”. He said:


“Al-Tabaraani quoted the hadeeth of Sufyaan ibn ‘Abd-Allaah al-Thaqafi: I said, O Messenger of Allah,Alayhi salatu wa salam  tell me something that will be of benefit to me, and make it brief and concise. He said, “Do not get angry, and Paradise will be yours.” It was also narrated that Abu’l-Dardaa’ said: I said, O Messenger of Allaah,Alayhi salatu wa salam  tell me of a deed which will earn me admission to Paradise. He said, Do not get angry… Al-Khattaabi said:


The meaning of the phrase ‘Do not get angry’ is, Avoid the things that cause anger and do not expose yourself to that which provokes it. Anger itself could not have been forbidden, because it is something natural which cannot be removed from human nature. Someone else said: what is meant is that which can be achieved by training oneself… It was said that it means, Do not do that which anger provokes you to do. Ibn Battaal said: the hadeeth indicates that striving to control oneself is more difficult than striving against the enemy, because the Prophet Alayhi salatu wa salam  described the one who controls himself at times of anger as being the strongest of people.

The Prophet Alayhi salatu wa salam  used to command each person to do that which was most appropriate for him, so he summed up his advice to this person by telling him not to get angry. Ibn al-Teen said: in the words ‘Do not get angry’, the Prophet Alayhi salatu wa salam  brought together the good of this world and of the Hereafter, because anger results in cutting off ties and withholding kindness, and it may lead to one doing harm to the person with whom one is angry, which diminishes one’s religious commitment.

One of the scholars said: Allah Subhana Wa Taala  created anger from fire, and made it an instinct in man. When there is a dispute, the flames of anger are fanned until a person’s face and eyes become red, because the skin reflects what is underneath it.  Anger produces external and internal changes, such as a change in colour, trembling, uncontrolled actions and a change in appearance, such that if the angry person could see himself when he is angry, he would feel ashamed of his ugly appearance and they way his appearance has changed. All of that is what happens on the outside. The internal effects are even worse, because it generates hatred in the heart, envy (hasad) and all kinds of bad feelings.

The most ugly effects of anger are the internal effects, and the external changes are the results of the internal changes. All of this has an effect on the body. The effect on the tongue is that it speaks words of slander and foul language which the wise person would feel ashamed of, and the angry person regrets them when he calms down. The effects of anger can also be seen in people’s actions, when they beat and kill. If the angry person does not have the chance to do that, he turns his anger against himself, tearing his garments and slapping his cheeks; sometimes he may have a seizure, or fall unconscious, or break vessels, or hit someone who has not done anything wrong.

Whoever thinks about these evil actions will realize just how much wisdom there is in these gentle words of the Prophet Alayhi salatu wa salam, ‘Do not get angry,’ and to how great an extent they protect people’s interests by warding off this great evil which may otherwise lead who knows where. All of this has to do with anger for the sake of worldly things, not anger for the sake of religious matters (Anger for the sake of Allah Subhana Wa Taala  is praiseworthy and recommended, such as anger when seeing evil actions). It helps a person not to get angry when he bears in mind what has been narrated concerning the virtues of restraining anger, and the warnings concerning the results of anger; he should also seek refuge with Allah Subhana Wa Taala  from the Shaytaan… and do wudoo’… And Allaah knows best.”


Remember, too, that the Prophet Alayhi salatu wa salam was not a person who insulted or cursed others. It was reported in Saheeh al-Bukhaari (6031) that Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet Alayhi salatu wa salam  was not a person who insulted people or used obscene language, and he did not curse people. If he wanted to rebuke anyone, he would say, “What is wrong with him? – may his forehead be rubbed with dust.”

Invocations for anguish

(1)  Laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahul-'Adheemul-Haleem, laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu Rabbul-'Arshil-'Adheem, laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu Rabbus-samaawaati wa Rabbul-'ardhi wa Rabbul-'Arshil-Kareem .
There is none worthy of worship but Allah the Mighty, the Forbearing. There is none worthy of worship but Allah, Lord of the Magnificent Throne. There is none worthy of worship but Allah, Lord of the heavens and Lord of the earth, and Lord of the Noble Throne.
Reference: Al-Bukhari 8/154, Muslim 4/2092

(2) Allaahumma rahmataka 'arjoo falaa takilnee 'ilaa nafsee tarfata 'aynin, wa 'aslih lee sha'nee kullahu, laa'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta.
O Allah , I hope for Your mercy . Do not leave me to myself even for the blinking of an eye (i.e. a moment) . Correct all of my affairs for me . There is none worthy of worship but You.
Reference: Abu Dawud 4/324, Ahmad 5/42. Al-Albani graded it as good in Sahih Abu Dawud 3/959.

(3) Laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta subhaanaka 'innee kuntu minadhdhaalimeen .
There is none worthy of worship but You, glory is to You. Surely, I was among the wrongdoers.
Reference: At-Tirmithi 5/529. Al-Hakim declared it authentic and Ath-Thahabi agreed with him 1/ 505. See also Al-Albani, Sahih At-Tirmithi 3/168.

(4) Allaahu Allaahu Rabbee laa 'ushriku bihishay'an.
Allah, Allah is my Lord. I do not associate anything with Him.
Reference: Abu Dawud 2/87. See also Al-Albani, Sahih Ibn Mdjah 2/335.